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Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Your Child's School Disorganization May Be Caused by Something Else

Good Morning! It's been an interesting morning already. We discovered that our second car had been sitting with a couple of windows partially open during several inches of snow. We have one of those key remotes that opens the windows automatically if you press the unlock button three times. I remember us using the wrong remote on our other car yesterday, but didn't think anything more about it.

After warming up the car for a long time (it was 5 degrees) and wiggling/jiggling the windows, they finally got warmed up and loosened up enough to close!! Since I had extra time this morning, it is somewhat amusing. If I had not, I think it would have been a different story! Or a very cold ride. :)

Your Child's School Disorganization Might Be Caused by Something Else

If your child begins forgetting things and becoming more disorganized, it might be caused by something other than being disorganized.

When one of our daughters was in third grade, she started forgetting to bring books home, forgetting what her assignments were, etc. It took a while, but we finally discovered that her teacher was going through a divorce and her anger was directed at the kids in her class.

Our daughter is a very gentle person and is of the personality type that if there is disharmony, it is very difficult for her to function. Or if she felt that one of her teachers didn't like her, it was hard for her to learn. (Yes, this is a valid personality type and should be valued. It's easy for those of us who have stronger personality types to tell these gentle souls to just suck it up and get on with life.)

After hearing similar experiences from other moms of children in the class, I eventually started putting two and two together and it started making sense. I met with the teacher, which is when I found out she was getting a divorce. I did point out to her that she was the adult in the situation, and she needed to manage her anger.

The situation got better, but we threw out our family rule of not returning to school for forgotten items. We did set up a new system for helping our daughter write down and remember books and assignments. I was prepared to have my daugter switched to another class, but she didn't want to!?! Figure that one out!

If you have a gentle child who has become more disorganized, there may be another issue: bullying, ridicule, angry teachers, etc. It may take a while for you to figure it out, but it's worth the journey!

What have you done in similar situations? (If you receive this blog by email and want to comment, this link will take you back to my blog.)

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